Sex before marriage

[Samus_Aran]

Hey. Just wondering what everyone's view is on sex before marriage. My sister and my mom got into a huge argument about it just now. They're probably still arguing in fact, probably just at regular speaking volume now. soooooooo what do you think?

i think as long as you love the person and youve been with them for awhile, i dont see the big issue. sure theres A risk with pregnancy and all, but it's so small it's almost insignificant! Plus it's worth the risk.

[Justin]

I think for normal people, sexual compatibility plays an important role in the longevity of a relationship, so i think it's probably not only acceptable to have sex before marriage, it's probably best for the health of the relationship.

[Samus_Aran]

THANK YOU! That's what I'm saying. Also, Religion Takes a simple thing like sex and complicates it to the extent where it can really take its toll on a relationship.

I dunno. Some people aren't even religious and they choose to wait because of the "risk." which I guess is their choice.

[Justin]

The risk, yes... I understand financial complication on occasion, but really, what risk are we speaking of?

Pregnancy? There are ways to protect against that.
Disease? Also, ways to prevent against that.

Obviously nothing is full proof, but, those issues still exist in marriage. They don't magically go away cause you tied the not.

[Dan]

It's not a good thing to tell your parents, but I think sex is a very important element in relationships today. And to do it before marriage won't be the end of the world. But I guess what Samus is saying is that it's a personal choice. The risk being pregnancy and how condom use isn't 100% perfect, and how birth control pills can cause nasty side-effects.

[Hale]

As someone who has had sex before marriage, I found that not only did it not harm our relationship I feel it really helped it. Granted, I'm now single, but it is in no way related to that.

[orclev]

I've got no problem with it, certainly. That's a decision that should be left up to the people in the relationship....whatever kind of relationship it might be. But in terms of serious, long-term relationships, as long as they feel like they're ready to move to that level, and they're comfortable with it and understand the risks (and understand what steps to take to make it less risky), there's really no sense in waiting until they're married to do it. Especially since some people who insist on waiting until they're married may end up getting married for precisely the wrong reasons.... :/

[Manarius]

Meh. I don't think it's a good idea to be boinking your girlfriend of two months. I, myself, think that commitment is pretty important. So, I wouldn't be having sex with some girl who wasn't going to probably end up marrying.

[Matrim]

from personal experience, i think it can be good in a relationship but in a way it can hurt it. It can be healthy because it can bring the two of you even more closer together than ever before. (i dont mean that in just a literal sense) but if your not careful you can start to confuse lust for love. the two can be confused easily. I myself wondered for a while whether i was just lusting for the sex or if i really loved the girl i was with. So you have to think about what it is that you are truely feeling cuz if you mix the two up things could end up badly for the both of you. You may end up in a marriage you regret or have kids that you might not regret having but regret having them with the person you are with.

[Matrim]

srry. hit the wrongbutton. anyways.

im not against sex before marraige im just saying think long and hard before you go along with it and decide why your doing it. Are you having sex for love OR are you having sex just cuz oyu wanna hit it and quit it. (or if she wants to you can keep hitting whenever. haha.)